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Our upstairs is our private world, unseen by friends and well anyone who isn’t escorted up there.  The escort is necessary so we can excuse the mess.  It isn’t because it is extra special, it’s because it’s extra messy and embarrassing and humbling and well…humiliating really.  Whenever something is left downstairs on the main living level Bill kindly takes it upstairs and puts it in the hallway where there is a bench and a little table which turned into several laundry baskets and other bags over time.  The idea is that if it is taken up there we are each supposed to take our stuff and put it away but that is not what happened.

Instead this hallway began to resemble somewhat of a hoarding space.  One morning at about 7 o’clock I heard a loud crash and a hissed, “Darn it!” from one of our daughters, undoubtedly looking for something she needed that day for school only to find she was hit with an avalanche.  It turned out she was looking for a pair of shoes that she did not find.

I have been on a journey since January that has had a winding and treachorous path leading me to Jesus.  It began with a challenge by the Holy Spirit to read through the Bible to be changed by the Word of God!  I decided I was so desperate to be changed that I wanted to do it in 90 days.  I didn’t want to take a whole year! Then near the end of that time (which turned out to be 82 days because once you hit the New Testament you see the end and you can’t wait to read it all) I started a 30 day cleanse.  I am not sure that I cleansed anything but I tried…“my way” keeping my comforts (coffee mainly).  Then I decided I needed to follow the rules, which I am sure are there for a reason, so I cut out coffee and continued another 30 days…of which I am on day 16.

I expected to cleanse my body, and ended up in the dreaded hoarder’s hallway (a nightmare for me!)  I headed upstairs determined to persevere no matter the dangers that awaited me 🙂  This is my own Pilgrim’s Progress.  As I was digging through it hit me…THIS IS A REFLECTION OF MY PERSONAL HIDDEN AND PRIVATE WORLD.  As long as others don’t see it I can get to it later.  I found so many parallels to my own heart and how I deal (or don’t deal with stuff). It’s as if we think things will fix themselves or they will magically disappear.  In my heart I knew I had to take ACTION for there to be change or it only gets worse and it’s my home and MY RESPONSIBILITY.  Someone has to deal with it, who will it be?   The Hallway for Hoarder’s Fairy?  I don’t think there is one.  I also experience this on repeat for laundry…BTW, there isn’t a Laundry Fairy either.  (Although I have had a few kind souls help me work through the mountain a few times.)

Here’s the “after photo” Sorry no “Before"

Here’s the “after photo” Sorry no “Before”

I am exercising discipline throughout my life inside and out taking care of my stuff.  I want to be able to allow people into every place without excuse or fear.  It’s not easy.  It’s often painful.  It’s also freeing.  It isn’t just my hallway that was cleared, my heart was cleaned first and now it’s working its way through the rest of my world!

Do you have a “Hoarder’s Hallway” of your own?  It’s time for you to take responsibility and let go of some stuff.  Start by reading the Word of God and asking God to change you.  Then see where He takes you on YOUR journey.  His GRACE is sufficient for you! 2 Corinthians 12:9  Do it because you want what God wants. Nothing can be done in your own strength, you have already proven that, right?

Philippians 2:13
Amplified Bible (AMP)
13 [Not in your own strength] for it is God Who is all the while effectually at work in you [energizing and creating in you the power and desire], both to will and to work for His good pleasure and satisfaction and delight.


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He said, she said and the last word fight never go places they should.  When there are relationships in our lives that seem impossible and we feel like giving up I would propose an idea that just might work.  I find it fascinating to watch reality tv shows about organizing homes.  One designer said something that I love, “Organizing From the Inside Out” by Julie Morgenstern, she says to start with what works.   Usually in a home there is a room that is actually fairly organized and easy to clean.  For our family, it’s our main level and basement which includes the kitchen, family room, formal dining and living, and laundry room.  The reason you start there is that you can improve it and be done and see your progress and enjoy the satisfaction of the accomplishment.  As you go along analyze why those rooms work.  Everything has it’s place, it’s shared space rather than everyone’s personal things everywhere, each room has a theme and is used for a specific purpose so only things that serve that purpose are stored there.  These rooms are where our guests spend time in our home so we want it to be clean and inviting.

Where it gets tricky is in the bedrooms where it’s just us that sees it for the most part.  These are the rooms that tend to have the most clutter.  There aren’t as many places to put things such as a kitchen that is primarily made up of cupboards and counters.  I think every room should have these.  When it’s “just us” we tend to make reasons why it’s okay if it’s not just right or organized, after all who is it really affecting?  YOU!

There is an interesting parallel in relationships.  Relationships with family are at risk of being like our bedrooms.  A lot of stuff gets put in there over the years and we are not prepared with the things we need to handle it all.  We let it get out of control until it seems impossible to ever make it beautiful again.  It is possible and the place to start is where it already works.  Recognize the purpose for that relationship and build on that purpose only and take everythingelse out that does not serve that purpose.  We need to take care to find what is needed to make that relationship clean and we can do that by finding what is working well already in the relationship and explore why it works.  Then see if you can find ways to declutter that relationship by building on what already works until is possible to get to the things that aren’t working and get rid of the extras that don’t really belong in that relationship.  Just because it’s very familiar and there is a great deal of history does not mean you can neglect finding the good in the ones you love.  Start there and move forward into a broken relationship and repair it with words of affirmation and love and truth a little at a time.

Proverbs 14

” 1 The wise woman builds her house,
but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

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